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Deciding to have children with your spouse may be easy or it may be difficult.  This depends on whether or not you share the same views of if you want to have children and how you many if you do.  Some couples get married agreeing that they both do not want children but their views change as they get older.   However, what happens when if your spouse decides he or she wants a child but you still don’t want one.  Can a marriage like this survive?

When Couples Disagree on Having Children

You thought you and your spouse were on the same wavelength but something changed and you are no longer seeing eye to eye.  This difference does not mean the end of your relationship.  It just means that it’s something that you will both have to work on together to overcome.  It may not be an easy challenge to deal with but it is possible to come to some sort of compromise.

What you will need to do with your spouse is discuss how you and your spouse feel about the topic of children.    Find out why he or she has changed his or her mind or why your spouse still doesn’t want children.  If your spouse doesn’t want children and you do, maybe there is some history that needs to be worked through before your spouse can feel comfortable in having a child.  If you are the one that doesn’t want a child but your spouse does, you may want to become self-aware of the reasons why you don’t and present these to your spouse.  Don’t deny your spouse’s feelings but try to see where he or she is coming from and ask yourself if there is any chance you would reconsider your decision.  You don’t have to now, but maybe with time you will be able to change your views enough so that you both end up satisfied in your marriage.

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